Last month, one of my dearest friends died unexpectedly of a brain aneurism. Dealing with her death has been a roller coaster of emotions and a powerful lesson in how to survive the loss of a loved one.
I felt it would be worth sharing.
I got a phone call on a Thursday afternoon that my friend Emmy had collapsed and was taken by ambulance to the nearest hospital.
When I got the call, I drove immediately to the hospital, expecting to find Emmy sitting up in bed and that we would laugh at the false alarm surrounding her health.
What I found was something entirely different.
A team of doctors and nurses were surrounding her bed in the ER and I was asked to wait outside. Soon a nurse came out and explained that her family had been contacted and she was in serious condition; she also asked if I knew whether Emmy had a DNR [“do not resuscitate”] order.
“DNR?” I thought. “Why are they asking about a DNR? She’s going to be fine.” Denial, shock and disbelief will do that to you.
Did you know there’s a difference between a healing and a cure? And that understanding that can make a big difference in your health?
I address this and several other topics on health and spirituality in my 30-minute March 10 radio interview on the Hidden Wisdom radio show, hosted by Pandora Peoples.
Listen in and learn about:
- how I began my spiritual journey
- my apprenticeship to Muskogee Creek medicine man Bear Heart
- breath work for health
- Native American ceremony
- how to release trauma
Here’s the link to the podcast: HIDDEN WISDOM WITH MOLLY LARKIN
Would you like to jump-start your meditation practice? Or have an instant dose of serenity? A home altar might be just the thing to help you.
Many people may think of altars as something only found in a church, but they don’t have to be limited to that.
The right “place” can make all the difference to what you want to do. How well could you work without an office? Or cook without a kitchen?
By the same token, we will benefit greatly from a designated place for our spiritual practice.
What is an altar?
Altars are built to hold focused energy, and help you to feel calm and centered when you approach them. It represents your intention to create more serenity, peace and love in your space and your life.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Henry Ford
In 2003 and 2013, seeking change in my life, I went to Brazil to see the medium Joao de Deus [John of God] at the Casa de Dom Ignacio de Loyola.
The Casa is a place where miraculous cures regularly occur. It’s also a place of kindness and acceptance of people from all over the world.
So I was surprised to read an interview with John of God in which, when asked what determines if a person gets cured, his answer was “merit.”
More and more, modern people are turning to indigenous teachings to learn a better way to live. Perhaps acceptance of gay rights could be the next lesson.
Here are a few things Native Americans have already contributed:
- The Great Law of Peace of the Iroquois Nation was the model for the United States Constitution.
- Native Americans were the original environmentalists. Care of the earth was so ingrained in their way of life that they didn’t even have a separate word for it.
- In making decisions, Native peoples would first ask how it would affect their descendents 7 generations into the future.
- Though they generally had separate roles, women were honored members of most tribes and could own property.
- Healing the whole person, body, mind and spirit was how they approached illness.
- The earth, and women, were viewed as sacred.
- They taught acceptance instead of judgment.
Many Native American and First Nations cultures accepted gender variation. In fact, lesbians and homosexuals were often considered sacred.
Yet, in spite of the U.S. Supreme Court’s landmark 2015 ruling in Obergefell v. Hodges conferring the right to marry to same-sex couples, many in the United States still oppose same-sex unions.
We have so much to learn.