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What were you told as a child that isn’t true?

told as a childAccording to Norm Shealy, M.D., research shows that human beings are born with only two natural  fears:  loud noises and falling.  All the rest are learned.

And very likely instilled in us by adults as we grow up.

As a result, we are allowing the fears we learned as little children to influence our decisions today.

Or, in the words of Emotional Freedom Technique expert Brad Yates, our adult lives are being run by kindergartners.

It’s time to stop letting the kindergartner inside us run [and ruin] our lives.

I have been under a lot of stress lately – too many projects and too little time.  I’m sure you’ve been there before.

I am grateful I know many stress reducing techniques to help me through it.

In taking a close look at what was triggering some of my stress, my mother’s advice to me as a child popped up as the source of my fear of failure.  She’s the one who told me to be afraid.

Out of her love for me, ironically.  And I bet many of you have had the same experience.

My mother grew up in an age when women had very few options.  The primary career choice was wife and mother.

I was of the generation that was just starting to break that pattern, and my mother told me she envied the choices the women of my generation had — because she didn’t have any when she was my age.

When I was a teenager starting to think about my future, my mother told me that I should get a teaching certificate so that if anything ever happened to my husband, I would have “something to fall back on.”

There were several messages in there:

  • I was expected to get married
  • My husband would take care of me
  • If anything happened to my husband [that meant death, by the way, because there was virtually no divorce 50 years ago], I wouldn’t be able to take care of myself UNLESS
  • I should become a teacher, which was the only career choice for most woman at that time.

So today when I was working on clearing my stress level over current projects that aren’t proceeding as fast as I’d hoped, these admonitions cropped up.

Because it was instilled in me at an early age that I just might not be o.k. taking care of myself.

Whew!  What a big burden to carry.

But the most important thing is:  she was wrongWomen, including me, are perfectly capable of being successful, healthy and happy, with or without a husband.

So what is the lie you were told as a child?  What fear was installed in you?

Did you buy into it?

If so, isn’t it time to set it aside?

How long are you going to let the kindergartner in you run your life?

Please feel free to comment below.  I’d love to hear your insights



Breathing: did you know it’s the Fountain of Youth?

breathingHow is your breathing? Did you know good breathing may be a key to the Fountain of Youth?

It doesn’t take particularly great psychic powers to guess that you might be sitting in a chair as you read this, and it’s likely that you’re slouching or perhaps leaning in over the desk.

And it’s also a good bet you’re breathing shallowly.

And all that is not so good for your health!

Sitting up straight and doing deep, slow breathing is one of the healthiest things you can do, yet few people do it!

In fact, most people need lessons in how to breathe correctly!

Children breathe fully and naturally until about the age of seven.  That’s when they start to take on stress and awareness of what adults are doing and they lose their natural ability for healthy breathing.

How fruit flies proved Dr. Oz wrong about organic produce

organic produceDr. Mehmet Oz caused quite a stir with his December 2012 Time Magazine cover story on conventional versus organic produce.

In “Give (Frozen) Peas a Chance – and Carrots Too,” he shocked many organic food fans, myself included, by saying organic food is no healthier than the frozen conventional vegetables in the supermarket.

Oz said, “nutritionally speaking, there is little difference between the farmer’s- market bounty and the humble brick from the freezer case.”

Nutritionally, he was right.  But in terms of overall health, he was wrong.  Why?  Because he didn’t look at the right studies.

We can always pray

we can always prayA devastating typhoon in the Philippines has left tens of thousands dead, injured or homeless.

Current U.N. and Philippine government estimates indicate over 9 million people are affected by Super Typhoon Haiyan [Yolanda] across the country.

620,000 have been displaced from their homes and communities. Many thousands are without food, water, shelter or electricity and have been for days.

The feelings of grief and helplessness on the part of those of us who read about this tragedy are palpable.  The world is mobilizing to send humanitarian aid; the U.S. Navy is sending aircraft carriers equipped for disaster relief.

What can we do?

Actually, we can pray.  And we can donate money to reputable relief organizations. 

What’s the latest miracle drug? Sleep!

sleepSleep gets short shrift in our society.  Health advocates promote the importance of diet and exercise, but sleep is seldom mentioned.

Yet it’s the third leg of the health tripod.

We spend over one-third [36%] of our lives doing it. So if you’re 90 years old, you’ve spent 32 years asleep.  Sobering, isn’t it?

The latest research shows that sleep is a bit of a miracle drug and we should all be taking it more seriously.

I’ll admit that I have spent a fair amount of time in my life fantasizing about how much more I could get done if I had more waking hours.  I’ve even written posts on how to be more productive.

But no less a power player than Arianna Huffington, in her TED talk, sang the praises of getting enough sleep.  That’s a position she moved to after fainting from exhaustion, hitting her head on her desk, and breaking her cheekbone requiring five stitches on her right eye. That would make me a convert, too.

Getting enough sleep improves your life in so many ways that it could be considered a key to success, in spite of Margaret Thatcher saying sleep is for wimps and Thomas Edison’s proclamation that it’s a criminal waste of time.

Here’s why Thatcher and Edison were both wrong about sleep

The brain doesn’t shut down when we sleep.  In fact, some areas of the brain are more active during sleep than when awake. While part of us is getting much needed rest, another part is learning and processing.

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