“Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he could be, and he will become what he should be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
That goes for how we treat ourselves, too.
I just listened to a talk by one of my mentors, Brendon Burchard. He made an interesting point about ending our focus on limiting beliefs and instead focusing on what works.
Brendon related the following email conversation he had with one of his coaching clients:
Client: “But what about my doubts and fears?”
Brendon: “What of them? They’re not going to go away. The question is, are they winning the day, or are you? What of your greatness and power? When you connect there, finally, after all this time, your insecurities will be irrelevant.”
We’ve heard it before: what we focus on expands.
Do you want to focus on your problems? Or what works?
Many people tend to focus on disorder, abnormalities or what’s holding them back.
Focus on virtues and strengths, instead of your weaknesses.
Brendon went on to say, “Some people say, ‘My limiting beliefs are sabotaging me.’ It’s not your limiting beliefs, it’s your limiting vision of who you are and what you’re capable of.”
Everything can be reframed, everything. Even the most difficult circumstances we go through.
I attended a seminar many years ago in which a woman was bemoaning the fact that her mother never wanted her, and, while pregnant, tried to abort her.
The seminar leader’s remarkable response was, “Your mother tried to abort you, and you’re here anyway. Look how powerful you are! You’re clearly here for a purpose. Find it and live it.”