What you focus on expands!
“What you focus on expands.” Most of us have heard that phrase. It’s the principle of the “law of attraction.”
Sounds so easy. Yet it’s also easy to forget.
Years ago when the film “The Secret” was all the rage, a friend of mine said she refused to watch the film because she’d known about the Law of Attraction for years and years.
Yet she didn’t practice it! She was someone who always focused on the negative. And when you focus on the negative, you just get more negative stuff happening to you.
Because what you focus on expands. Period.
Applying the principle to relationships
This past weekend I was teaching a workshop and during the “releasing limiting beliefs” segment, there were two students who wanted to bring good relationships into their lives.
First, they had to accept that they each deserved good relationships.
But what was the next step?
How does one focus on bringing in a good relationship? I decided that the technique we came up with was well worth a blog post.
First, if there’s something you want, not only should you focus on it through affirmations and visualizations, you should focus on it by your actions.
Part of the students’ assignment, after coming up with a clear statement of what they wanted, was to define action steps they could take in one week, one month and six months.
Yes, visualization works, but action steps can make all the difference in bringing in what you want.
So the action steps for drawing in a healthy relationship are these:
Within the next day: Identify five people who have what you consider to be a healthy relationship.
Within one week: List the qualities those five people have that they bring to a healthy relationship. These would be the qualities you would want in your partner.
Within six months: You will have met that person!
Many years ago one of my spiritual teachers asked what I wanted in a relationship and I replied I didn’t know. Her response was, “You must know some things. I bet you’d like him to be employed and have all his teeth!”
That was a good starting point. It can be that simple.
Whether it’s a relationship or job or any other goal, list the defining aspects of it.
You must know some things that you want. Focus on them and see how they expand.[quote]“Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating you are planning…What are you planning?” Abraham[/quote]
Molly Larkin is the co-author of the international best-seller “The Wind Is My Mother; The Life and Teachings of a Native American Shaman” and other books on health. She is passionate about helping people live life to their fullest potential through her classes, healing practice and blog at www.MollyLarkin.com